In a recent TED talk, Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger described some of the secrets to happiness, which was revealed in a recently released 75-year-long Harvard Study.
Apparently, we should value love above all else. It’s the main thing in life that brings us happiness. Once you see what really made people happy over three-quarters of a century, you won’t need to assume what will make you happy, and you may change your ways.
Psychiatrist George Vaillant, who led the study from 1972 to 2004, wrote about this important study with humour. He said, “The 75 years and 20 million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’ “
1. Close Relationships
The men in both groups who had better relationships with family, friends and community were both happier and healthier than their less social counterparts. They also lived longer.
Lonely people had more health-related problems and reported feeling less happy. They also suffered from sleep disorders and more mental health issues. Men who had “warm” childhood relationships with their mothers were less likely to develop dementia later in life and were more likely to have professional success.
2. Know when to let go
As the people got older, they tended to focus more on what’s important to them and didn’t sweat the small stuff to the degree they did when they were younger, according to the project’s director, Dr Robert Waldinger.
Other research supports this mindset and has found that older adults are better about letting go of past failures. “They tend to realize how life is short and they are more likely to pay more attention on what makes them happy now,” says Dr. Waldinger.
You could do the same. What activities make you happy and what’s stopping you from doing them? Think back to your childhood. What did you enjoy when you were younger? Singing? Playing games? Doing certain hobbies?
“When you are older you have more opportunity to return to the activities you associate with happiness,” says Dr Waldinger. So begin that coin collection, join a choir, or play poker or bridge.